3 Questions that will change your life

There are defining moments in life that can change the course of your future.  It could be someone asking you what you want to be, not just things like being a mother, a wife/partner, in this job or that role, but what do you really want to be, how you want to show up in the world. Back to current podcast fave Tonya Leigh who offers three questions to ask yourself.

Who do you want to be? This can be daunting to try to answer.  Taking courage to decide who you want to be and letting go of every belief that says it’s not possible.  It’s not easy.  People will ask who you think you are, trying to be someone you’re not, but you are whoever you choose to be, if you have the courage, determination and grit to show up.

People will then start to see you showing up differently.  Even when you’re still confused and overwhelmed by it all, ask yourself What do you want? You need to get really honest with yourself about what you really want, and it can be hard to get out of the “I don’t know” funk.  But what if you did know?  What would you have to admit to yourself? If you have the courage to admit your answer it can be the momentum for your life to move in the direction you choose.  If you’re stuck in the “I don’t know” you don’t have to deal with the hard questions, you can stay exactly where you are, nice and comfortable.  As soon as you realise you do know you can start to move on. Practice believing in yourself and your dreams, start positioning yourself in those areas you want to be in, and even blag it for a while, but do so confidently, as if you belong there.

When you start to style your mind to create what you want, you can still have limited beliefs, still feel the need to prove yourself, earn your worth. When you observe others doing things like playing chess in the park, lovers kissing, picnicking with the kids, having coffee or reading a book by a fountain, you can see how they embrace the simple pleasures of life.  You don’t have to put those things off until “one day when”.  What if the real secret to life is enjoying and savouring every day as if it were your last?  What if there’s nothing to prove? How can you start making each day the most fabulous day ever? There are days when you are stressed and don’t do a great job, but you don’t have to be in a state of perpetual bliss, you’re only human.

If you ask yourself those three questions it will impact the quality of your life based on the quality of your answers.  It can spark new questions that require your brain to come up with new answers.  Admit to yourself who you want to be, what you want and how you can make today fabulous, then shape your thoughts and actions around your answers.

Who do I want to be? – someone who is taken seriously, someone who matters to somebody.   

What do I want? – a home that I can be comfortable in, to be myself without apology, to be able to say how I feel and what I need without fear of judgement or ridicule.

How will I make today the most fabulous day? – by sucking it all in, by being grateful for all I have and the things that others do for me, by being present.

How would you answer those three questions?