Tag: #action

Feeling confused? 

Being confused about things in life is normal but it’s useful to know how to navigate those times in order to make progress. When we don’t know what we want or what choice to make we can spend time spinning around and not coming to any conclusion.  Imaging what it would be like to refuse to be confused.  Podcast fave Tonya Leigh gives us three ways to beat the confusion.

When we’re confused, we start to think that we are going to do something wrong or there’s a better way to do it, or we don’t know the technicalities of it.  These thoughts can lead to anxiety and analysis paralysis. The moment we make a decision though, all our energy can get behind that decision. There are some ways we can deal with confusion:

  1. Do you need more information? – if you’ve never done something before you’ll need to gather information so you’re no longer confused about what to do.
  2. Make a decision – once we make a decision, we no longer waste energy on confusion and put our efforts into moving forward.
  3. Take action – you don’t know what you don’t know because you’re not out there, involved in what it is you want.  Experiment and participate to gain clarity in what you do and don’t want.

Don’t feel back about not knowing what it is you want, many of us as mature adults still don’t. The best way to figure out what to do with your life is to life your life and live it fully.  Try lots of different things and notice what brings you joy and enthuses you.

Sitting at home trying to think your way out of confusion isn’t’ going to work. If you stay in a state of confusion it’s the easy option because you don’t have to do anything, you can hide being your confusion. The moment you make a decision you need to get behind it and put your energy into making it come to fruition. Once you’ve made that decision you are no longer splitting your energy between wanting something to be different but not doing anything about it.

By taking action to try different things you’ll find what you love and don’t love; what you enjoy or don’t.

If you give yourself the opportunity to be messy during the creative process of getting out of confusion, you’ll be willing to try new things and decide for yourself.

What are you confused about?  Look at the three options and take action on one of the three. If you need more information, go out and get it.  Maybe what you need is to just make a decision, so make it and refocus your energy.  Get out there and experiment to gain clarity over your confusion if that’s what you need.

Do you need to learn, decide or live?  Ask yourself that question next time you’re confused.

Reimagining your vision board

Image by Sh1ra from Pixabay

I’ve not really been one for vision boards.  At least not the physical sort that you cut out images from magazines or pin photos to of places you want to visit, the home you want to create, the relationships you want to have, career goals, health and happiness, what you want to learn etc.  Mine is more of a vague idea or general direction in my head with a To Do List of how I’m going to get there.

According to https://blog.mindvalley.com/vision-board/ creating a vision board is a great way to be clear about your goals and dreams and to motivate yourself to bring them about.  Some people even have vision board parties where everyone brings along their pictures and glue sticks and get creative over a bottle of wine.  It is described as a way of putting the law of attraction into practice by creating a powerful visualisation tool that helps you narrow down your desires through making choices.  The law of attraction magnetises and is supposed to attract you to the opportunities you need to turn your dreams into reality.

A vision board can be inspirational and aspirational but it doesn’t offer the knowledge of who to achieve it.  To do that you need to take inspired action. Research things on your board to determine how to make them happen.  The problem with vision boards is they are inanimate objects that have no power.  The power comes from your desire to know which direction to go in.  The main factor in creating your vision is to commit to falling in love with your life right now.

Back to my current podcast fave Tonya Leigh who suggested that what you focus on grows.  When you look for what you love and when you fall in love with what’s happening right now, things get better.

A picture on a vision board can be a catalyst to set things in motion, but it needn’t be a vision board, it could be a picture, or a piece of art, or something around your home or office space that inspires you.

TL suggested that vision boards only worked when you show up and live out that vision.  People talk about their dreams or take classes without ever doing the real work.  They read financial pages but don’t crunch the numbers.  They have a shelf of cook books with beautiful recipes that never get made.  They read fashion blogs but never buy that new outfit.  They attend conferences and retreats but never put what they learned into practice.  Some people create beautiful vision boards but don’t show up for their vision and wonder why nothing has changed.  They expected the vision board to do all the work for them instead of working on their vision.

TL suggested an alternative if you’re frustrated that your vision board isn’t working for you.  Rather than spending hours creating a master collage, use that time to live out your vision.  Put yourself out there and actually do it.

The call to action today is to stop pretending to live out your dreams and make a commitment to show up and live it.